Relationships around food

 
       

The Eucharist, the Body of Christ, is central to our faith. Since Christ is the Bread of Life, Christians already have a deep and celebratory relationship with food. You can read reflections about our relationships around food this Lent.

More than just a sandwich topping
by Laury Rinker

When I eat a hamburger at a fast-food chain or purchase vegetables at a grocery store, I don’t usually think about where my food came from.

But I should.

Take tomatoes, for example. They’re on just about every fast-food burger and in every grocery store in America. They are used to make some of my favorite foods like salsa and tomato soup.

Most of the tomatoes you find at fast-food restaurants and supermarkets come from the state of Florida. Florida tomato pickers are among this country’s most exploited workers.

According to an article in The New York Times, the average tomato picker earned $13,000 a year in 2008. In addition, the workday begins at 5 a.m. or when workers can meet a bus that takes them from town to the tomato fields.The same bus does not deliver workers back to town until the end of the workday or 6 p.m.

In extreme cases, there have been several charges of modern-day slavery and abuse. In one example, according to the Coalition of Immolakee Workers, (CIW) Web site, a family harbored undocumented workers from Mexico. They were sentenced in a case that involved beating, chaining, and enslaving workers who picked tomatoes in Florida’s major farms.

This exploitation happens so that purchasers (especially fast-food chains and supermarkets) can get tomatoes for a cheap price—and so that I can still find my cheeseburger on the dollar menu.

This issue is much bigger than tomatoes. Similar injustices are found throughout the food production industry—in bananas, coffee, and poultry. You name it. When I eat these foods, many times I think of the faces of the men and women who worked under such harsh conditions to bring food to my plate.

What can I do about this?

I can speak up. Organizations like the Coalition of Immokalee Workers (CIW) are working to ensure fair wages and conditions for farm workers in Florida. So far, they have convinced Taco Bell, McDonald’s, Burger King, Whole Foods, Subway, and other corporations to improve wages and promote fair conditions in their tomato supply chains.

And I can be a conscientious consumer. By choosing Fair Trade products, I can be sure that farmers are receiving fair wages. And by giving to ELCA World Hunger, I am helping my church support Fair Trade projects in several different countries around the world.

Laury Rinker lives in Chicago and serves as associate director for marketing communications for the ELCA World Hunger and Disaster Appeal.

My Grandpa and me
by Karris Golden

There is an African proverb that says, “Plenty sits still; hunger is a wanderer.”

As a girl, I knew that proverb by heart, eventually understanding that I fear being unsettled. If I can, I cling to comfort, though I try to push myself past this. I know why I crave safety: my Grandpa Golden. I knew him only in his “plenty” years, although his memories of want proved unshakable. As with so many from that time, the hardships of the Great Depression ran deep. The lack of food punctuated his memories.

Grandpa was from Mississippi. He didn’t speak of struggles, hunger, or want. He and my grandma ventured north to Iowa with other Blacks during the Great Migration. Yet he alluded to tough times only once—when describing the distinct flavor of “old well water from the pump.”

In the early 1980s, Grandpa lived with us. He had a soft-spoken, powerful presence. Today, I realize his influence made me value safety and helped shape my understanding of family, food, and home.

For Grandpa, each meal was wonderful. Our daily evening dinner took on even more importance with him there. Grandpa was a fan of Mom’s excellent cooking. When we mention him today, mom says, “He liked to eat!” To him, there was no greater compliment.

Eyes sparkling, Grandpa would arrive to watch Mom set the table. This ritual delighted him as much as eating! He’d smile and nod appreciatively at the food, sighing with satisfaction at his particular favorites—of which there were many.

If you didn’t clean your plate or if Mom deemed the amount of leftovers too small to save, Grandpa would hear none of it. “I just can’t stand to see such good food go to waste,” he’d say, carefully moving the bounty to his plate.

One night, as Grandpa completed his pre-dinner ablutions, Dad told us he planned to present Grandpa with a birthday surprise: a rare photo of his father. Happy tears welled in Grandpa’s eyes when Mom unveiled a peach cobbler she’d made for dessert. “From the peaches you canned?” he asked, visibly moved.

Then Dad held out the photo. Incredulous, Grandpa exclaimed, “That’s my daddy!” Sitting back in his chair, Grandpa smiled at the ceiling. It was all too good—too much!

Grandpa found happiness in simple and profound things—in everything. He also cried when he was hurt. By watching him, I saw that in hunger, he sought reasons to give thanks. In plenty, he counted his blessings and
prepared for the road’s next turn.

Karris Golden lives in rural northeast Iowa with her husband, Josh Neessen, and daughter Zoey. She runs two publishing companies that produce books on financial trading and writes regularly for Café, Lutheran Woman Today and The Lutheran. E-mail her at karris@karrisgolden.com.

A table for saints
by Susan Schneider


If I had to pick one item of furniture to symbolize my upbringing, it would be the family dining table. I don’t mean a specific table (we moved a number of times and new tables were often part of the new location). I mean the events that happened around it. Supper was served at 6:00 p.m. every night. Except for rare occasions, the whole family ate together. My mother had a small brass dinner bell with sculpted birds on a branch as its handle. When it was dinnertime—in a more refined version of a cowbell on a ranch—my mother would ring the little bell, and family members would come pouring from wherever we were in the house or yard to sit down at the table. Every meal began with a prayer of thanksgiving, many of which were sung.

When my sister, brother, and I became teenagers, it was harder to get all of us in the same place at the same time (given basketball and play practice and job schedules). It became mandatory to appear at the breakfast table, even if we didn’t eat much. Before our morning prayers, each of us shared what we were doing for the day, or a project or event we were excited or nervous about. On our birthdays, cake and ice cream were served for breakfast, since that was a time when everyone was sure to be there to sing together.

Inday
Since mealtimes were so central in my development, it is no surprise that my very earliest memory is of sitting at a kitchen table in the Philippines. I ate a slice of raw potato while our maid, Inday, cooked dinner. If you’ve ever tried a raw potato, you know there’s no flavor to speak of, but there is an enormously satisfying crunch, and a scratchy, starchy texture. This event is not significant for dramatic content, but the fact that it is of food and took place in our kitchen is notable. The other interesting detail is that the main character besides me is not a parent, sibling, or a family friend, but our maid.

Most missionary families in the Philippines had maids. Ours was no exception—though we called them "helpers," not maids. This job title is certainly apt, and it has a more pleasant ring to it than "maid," but the relationship was definitely one of employer and employee, no matter how it was called. Over the course of the 13 years I lived in the Philippines, my family had a variety of helpers, but Inday is the one I remember best. It was Inday who pushed me on the swings, held me on my tricycle as I explored the wonderful world of mobility, laid down with me for afternoon naps, and helped pull out my first loose tooth. I cannot imagine my early childhood without her, so it really isn’t any surprise that my first memory is of her.

What is surprising, as I look back on it, is that despite her significant role in my development, and despite the significant role of family dining in my development, I do not recall ever eating a family meal with Inday. I am sure there were times when she was babysitting us that my sister and brother and I shared her rice and fish in the kitchen. But, although I remember her cooking and serving our meals, I don’t remember her ever sitting down with us as at the family table in the dining room. In retrospect this is astounding to me. If Inday was included in activities like family vacations, why was she not there when we sliced pieces of chicken or passed the rice or poured the iced tea? Apparently, whether you call her a maid or a helper, the fact remains that Inday was not officially part of my family. And family tables are for uniting a family.

Breaking of the bread
There is something incredibly equalizing and intimate about breaking bread with someone else. It’s not just that every person gets enough vitamins and minerals to sustain his or her body for a day. A shared meal creates a union through shared experience and mutual emotional and physical participation. It is no wonder that so many first dates involve a couple going out for dinner. There is an implicit understanding that eating together is an invitation to another person to come closer, to connect more deeply.

There is something so humanizing about sitting across a table from another person, having to ask someone to please pass the salt and wondering aloud if dessert will be fruit or cookies. In those moments, very little is required in order to feel as if one belongs to the community. When the saints all gather together at the heavenly banquet in God’s kingdom, I sincerely hope that I will be sitting next to Inday.

The Rev. Susan Schneider grew up the middle child of missionaries in Philippines. She is now an interim pastor in the Chicago suburbs, a freelance writer, and a devotee of good food and wine. She has an enormous dining room table.

My food, my faith
by Sylvia High Karlsson

Choosing what I want from a menu or being able to go to a grocery store is something I used to take for granted. Recently I’ve learned how these everyday actions are much more complicated than what tastes good and what contributes to my health. Indeed, food is a part of my spiritual life and my stewardship of all God’s blessings.

After all, I have a great deal of discretion in what I buy. However, many people around the world—and in the United States—who have enough to eat today, don’t know what they will eat tomorrow or later in the week. This situation is called “food insecurity.” I certainly remember a time when a much larger portion of my income went for food. I had a saying hanging on my refrigerator that said: “When people ask me why I work, I tell them I like food.”

I’m grateful those days are in the past for me. Now I’m trying to learn a lot more about all the variables and resources it takes for food to get on our tables. And this complexity affects my faith life. I’m not quite sure how to name the feeling I have, but I know it’s not guilt exactly. I truly believe God has created this wonderful world with good food for us to enjoy. My feeling is not about trying to “save the world,” because we already have a savior in Jesus Christ. My feeling is more like sensing the power of the Holy Spirit stirring me up.

So as part of my spiritual journey, I’m making an effort to learn about Fair Trade and sustainable agriculture. I’m noticing the balance between diversity and efficiency in agriculture. In stores, I’m paying attention to the mix of agribusiness and local farmers. And I can attest that local eggs have a better color and taste than factory-farmed eggs.

By witnessing as a disciple of Jesus Christ, I find that living out his love for us includes stewardship in shopping and food choices. It all starts with the “living bread” I share in community with others: in worship at the communion table, in fellowship over coffee and goodies, in outreach through a food pantry, at home, when I pray before meals.

I praise God that I know deep inside that Jesus is the true Bread of Life. Thanks be to God!

The Rev. Sylvia High Karlsson is an ordained pastor in the ELCA who grew up on a diversified Nebraska farm in the 1950s. She has watched the change to single-crop farming over her lifetime, and is wondering what the future holds. In October 2009 she attended an ELCA World Hunger training event called “Ethics of Eating.”

Food and Lent and Happiness by Laura Johnson

Return to your God, hold fast to love and justice and wait continually for your God. Hosea 12:6

I think one of the reasons Martin Luther posted his 95 theses was because he was hungry. Not because his monastery had a lack of food. But there were times he was expected to fast for long periods. Perhaps this wasn’t his biggest issue with the Catholic church but it is why today, we, as Lutherans, aren’t required to give up anything for Lent (although it is still encouraged in some circles).

It’s a common question at school or your place of business, “What are you giving up for Lent?” As if there’s a competition to see who can give up the most difficult thing, who can suffer the most for six weeks and come out with bragging rights at the end. When asked, I always say I’m giving up lima beans and brussel sprouts (neither of which I eat anyway, but don’t tell anyone).

When you decide to give up something like fast food (one of my many vices) are you giving it up for your own health, or God, or both? By giving up those delicious burgers and fries for six weeks does this mean you love God more than anybody else does? No. Lent is supposed to be a time of preparing, just as Advent is before Christmas. The purpose of giving something up is not a bad idea in theory—it is supposed to help us keep our eyes on Jesus—but when it ends up being a contest, the intent has been changed. Lent is the time we should return to God.

As a woman living alone in her first apartment, there are many food items I should give up, such as eating out to save on money, or eating Top Ramen to save my arteries. If I decided to give these up, I would no longer be focused on God—I would only be concentrating on the items I couldn’t have.

Nowhere in the New Testament does it say: “On Friday, thou can only eat fish, or that thou must give up something for Lent.” Lent did not exist, although Fasting has been done since the beginning of time. And it can be a marvelous thing when done in the proper context of constant prayer in full connection with God.

If that is what you are called to do, then by all means, go for it. On the other hand, if you see that you are doing it for all the wrong reasons, stick to moderation when it comes to your worst food habits, get in a good small group for growth and discipleship during Lent, and find time for prayer. And all will be well with your soul. In essence, return to your God.

Laura Johnson is the alternative newspaper editor in Sioux City, Iowa. In her spare time she attempts to avoid fast food restaurants and find time to write for herself. Easter is her favorite holiday.

 

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What do people gain from all the toil at which they toil under the sun? Ecclesiastes 1:3

Family meals can be hard work. There is the menu planning, grocery shopping, food preparation, cooking, and once the meal is over, washing the dirty dishes and finding space in the fridge for the leftovers.

I recently enjoyed a reunion weekend with my husband’s family in Iowa. Seventeen of us gathered together at Grandma’s and Grandpa’s. At one point during the weekend, one of us remarked that all we seemed to do was move from one meal to the next. It brought a few chuckles, but the comment contained a kernel of truth. With 10 adults and seven children under the age of 10, eating together involved much toil and energy.

The author of Ecclesiastes wrestles with the seemingly endless toil of our days. “Vanity, vanity, all is vanity” is the ongoing pessimistic refrain of the book. Why do we work so hard for that which perishes? The question was very timely for the author. Although he stood in a long line of wisdom teachers (other Old Testament wisdom books include Proverbs and Job), he questions how the wisdom passed on to him can be applied in a new time. In the Hellenistic period, approximately 300 BCE, great changes were afoot in government, economics, the military, and technology. Not unlike our own day, the writer searched for meaning in times of uncertainty and unrest.

We might ask: Is their any benefit to the time spent in eating together or in preparing whole foods? Isn’t it just too much work, given everything else that demands our time and attention?

There is nothing better for mortals than to eat and drink, and find enjoyment in their toil. This also, I saw is from the hand of God. Ecclesiastes 2:24

One afternoon during our family visit, my sister-in-law and her husband were strolling through the backyard. They noticed an abundance of apples on the tree and decided to make two apple pies. While my sister-in-law worked the dough, her husband and I cored and sliced the apples. As we worked, we chatted about our lives — mine here in the states and theirs as missionaries overseas. We had a few disagreements about how many apples to put in each pie pan and whether or not there was enough cinnamon and sugar in the dough. I remember chuckling at the couple’s bickering, recalling similar arguments my husband and I have had in the kitchen, each of us vying to be right. Yet at the end of the day, we found enjoyment in the fruit of our labors. The store-bought pie from the night before couldn’t compare to this home-grown creation.

Over the course of our weekend, most family members had some role in making our weekend replete with delicious food: Grandma shopping in preparation for our visit, Grandpa serving up morning waffles to the kids, beef from another sister’s farm, and, yes, even homemade margaritas to accompany our taco salads. We worked together, yet as we worked, we found enjoyment in our toil.

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. Ecclesiastes 4:9

It is all about the relationships. What made mealtimes at our family reunion so memorable were the bonds strengthened by our shared work and eating together around one table. I once heard that the full meaning of the vice gluttony was not only overeating, but also eating without regard for one another. How often do we eat in the car or at our desks, separate from our families or friends? Our fast-paced culture values convenience, often to the detriment of relationships.

I remember that the summer before I was married, I didn’t care much for cooking because I couldn’t share the food with anyone. As a mother, I miss those early years of marriage when cooking and dining was time free from the distractions of “more milk please” and spilled peas. Yet now I savor the ways my three-year-old helps as we cook our meals. He is learning the value of cooking and eating together. The reward for our toil in food preparation comes from these kinds of moments.

These relationships around food extend beyond the dinner table. I find that when I take the time to think about where my food comes from and what it is made of, eating becomes about more than my own family. Walking past the melons in our local store that have come from Guatemala, I wonder: Who grew these? How many people have been involved in transporting them all the way to northwestern Minnesota? Do the farmers who grew them enjoy a reward for their toil?

These are relational questions. In these kinds of reflections, eating becomes about much more than eating. It is about our relationships to the land, to each other, and to the Giver of Life.

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

Perhaps you’ve seen this famous quote stenciled on a wall, or heard it read at a wedding or funeral. It speaks to the importance of each thing in its time.

When it comes to wise eating, this verse is indeed a blessing. Sometimes all the information about food—the nutritional, political, environmental, and economic concerns—becomes a burden. Of course, the information can be useful for us. Yet at other times, making decisions about how and what to eat might cause us to throw up our hands and lament: “vanity, vanity, it's all vanity.’”

Ecclesiastes is a book about tensions: In some moments all is enjoyment and gift. Other times, all seems pointless and without meaning. Our relationship to food and others can benefit from some balance.

I know of folks in a neighboring community who strive to eat according to a very strict healthy diet. They do so not by necessity, but out of choice. While it may be a blessing to them, these dietary laws, not unlike those found in the Old Testament, become overwhelming. At our family reunion, we cooked together, but we also enjoyed tea and dessert one Saturday afternoon at a local restaurant and a Chinese buffet for Sunday dinner. There is a time for take-out, crackers out of a box, and birthday cake. There is also a time to eat less and give more, being mindful of those who toil and still go hungry.

Jesus enjoyed eating with others and often broke dearly held dietary laws and practices in the meantime. For him, it was about the relationship, about welcoming others to the table. Wisdom in our eating can benefit from similar questions: Is it a welcoming practice and are the many relationships honored?

Wise eating takes work. It is also one of the greatest joys. There is a time for both. And in all moments, we can be thankful for the gift of food and those with whom we share it.

Jennifer Baker-Trinity is a church musician and an Associate in Ministry candidate. She lives with her family in Winger, Minnesota.

 
 

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