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Have you been a victim of gossip? What impact did it have on your life? Do you think you are a gossipper? Why or why not?
I'm going to send some gossip out right now! GOD IS GOOD!! Please, feel free to pass that bit of information. Also, I wanted to say hello to Wanda and Linda! I see they both have posts on this topic. I had the awesome opportunity to meet them both at the Central States Women of the ELCA Synod Assembly in Joplin, MO. They were both a delight to meet. :) As for gossiping, I grew up on a farm and was not a petite person, nor am I yet. However, I think the school was small enough that I didn't really pay attention to those that carried the latest and greatest news on a daily basis. If you are in a situation where gossip is bothering you, tune them out and don't pay them any attention. Pray to God for help! I don't really think I have ever been the juicy grape in the grapevine with all of the current information. I think my problem is that I am a good listener so along with that, many things are shared with me. However, it's not because I was seeking the information. Thank you to the Women of the ELCA for creating this site. I will be promoting it and checking back on a regular basis. :) God's Peace - Tonya
Posted by: Tonya Andrews (Albert, KS)
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:38:07 PM
Congregation: Peace Lutheran
Talking about what others are up to can sometimes be helpful to all invlolved, so long as that is the aim from the onset of your interest, it generally is not gossip, as it were. When I ask for deatils or share them I generally try to focus on the aspects that will give me a better understanding of another person's motivations. I do get angry when people are mean to others, or when a company is not forthright with customers...then - I gossip. I want to forewarn, and sometimes just flat out prevent other people from ever having to cross paths with an individual or firm that's just not being above board. I don't know. I have so many questions about how I am actually supposed to feel about things around me - who knows what is right and wrong anymore??!
Posted by: Angela
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:34:25 AM
Congregation: None - New to Faith
I hear a lot of gossip at my workplace. I really try to tune it out and do what I'm at work to do. Too many people embellish the gossip and it isn't even what was said in the first place. Sometimes, though, through the gossip, I can determine who needs support from a friend. You can listen, but you don't have to help spread gossip. We are to be spreading God's Word, not gossip.
Posted by: Tammy Ball (Venus, PA)
Posted: 7/24/2006 7:19:32 PM
Congregation: Faith Lutheran
As I listened to a young woman doing a workshop on gossip, I realized that even when I am relating good news I have heard about someone, it is still gossip and can have a negative impact. For example: If I tell Linda about Susie's beautiful new boat, I might have second thoughts if I knew beforehand that Linda's husband works for Susie's husband and was recently laid off. Not only that but an article in the business section commended Susie's husband for the great work he did in cutting costs...and that he received a substantial bonus for his business savvy. Hmm, what if part or all of Susie's new boat was paid for by her husband's bonus money? The lesson I learned? When I am talking with someone, I share news only about us. News about anyone else is theirs to share...or not.
Posted by: Wanda Scott Bledsoe (Temecula, CA)
Posted: 7/23/2006 6:07:23 PM
Congregation: Hope
I am almost 80 years old, and I enjoy Cafe. I think it is supposed to be geared to young women, but much is relevant to us oldies too. Once in a while it would be fun to see something geared to us seniors too. But I do enjoy it a lot.
Keep up the good work!
A Fool for Christ!! (:
Posted by: Ina Murray (Elldworth,, WI)
Posted: 7/21/2006 9:19:41 PM
Congregation: Our Savior's Lutheran
I have a little secret: I am now 73 and love Cafe. Nothing I have read since joining is necessarily for young women alone.
Now living in Japan, I still like my US Lutheran connection. In addition there are such good things to pass on to the Lutheran Women in Japan.
Gloria Ishida
Past president Metro Chicago Women of ELCA
Posted by: Gloria Bauer Ishida
Posted: 7/21/2006 7:38:39 PM
Congregation: Kariya Lutheran
I admit to gossiping. In my case I think it is more a case of lack of will than the need to gossip. I don't find myself starting a gossip pool but if a group of people around me starts gossiping, I get interested and will start to chime in. The featured article was very well articulated and made me think of what I can do everyday to change my gossip patterns. I just started a new job and I think its the perfect time and place to make a very conscience effort to not start or join in to gossip.
Posted by: Nicole Schmidt (Chicago, IL)
Posted: 7/18/2006 8:50:04 AM
yea i do consider myself a gossipper on the wagon too because i think i do it because everyone else does and i know its bad and god doesnt want us to but i cant help it! i am going to college in the fall and i will try harder not to gossip about ppl when i dont even know them yet. i am going to try
~Amanda
Posted by: Amanda (Union Co, SD)
Posted: 7/12/2006 7:04:06 PM
Congregation: Union Creek SD
Cell phones, e-mail, instant messaging...all these things make it so easy to gossip immediately without ever pausing to think about the fact that you are gossiping or that other people may be hurt by the words you are about to convey. Back before this modern technology, when one had to write a letter and put it in the mail, often there was time (like overnight) to reflect on what was written and maybe come to the conclusion the next morning that certain things were better left unsaid. For folks who don't have a strong sense of inner monitoring, modern technology enables some regretable situations!
Posted by: Linda Post Bushkofsky (Arlington Heights, IL)
Posted: 7/5/2006 10:39:17 PM
Congregation: Our Saviour's
What have we done for Hurricane Relief? We are sending a team to lead Camp Noah for children. This is a well organized program for children through Lutheran Social Services and a great mission trip opportunity.
Posted by: Pastor Karen Grandall (Rochester, MN)
Posted: 7/5/2006 11:36:34 AM
Congregation: Hosanna Lutheran
I do consider myself a gossipper, but I'm a gossipper "on the wagon". During Lent this year I realized that there were days I would call my mother simply to gossip. And some was very hurtful gossip. So, I gave up gossip for Lent. I admit that I've got a long way to go, but making a conscious effort not to gossip has really made me feel better about myself. I never realized what a negative energy gossipping created in my life.
Posted by: Deann McManus (Prosperity, SC)
Posted: 6/30/2006 4:34:32 PM
Congregation: St. Luke's
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